What would you share if you could bare to? What would you write if you had the courage to tell your parents about all the sadness, the rage, the confusion, the joy? It doesn’t matter if they’re close by, whether you have a loving relationship, or a contentious or estranged one. Even if they’ve passed on, there will always be more to say. You may be wondering though, where you should even begin. With feelings colliding into one another like, it could feel paralyzing.
It would help to start by identifying the emotions you feel. What would you want to tell them based on that? You can start small. You can start with gratitude. But you can also start with anger. It’s about where you are in your relationship. You can travel through one set of feelings to another very contradictory one, depending on how you truly feel.
I’ll be doing a guided series on writing letters to our parents, where I’ll prompt questions that help get to a place of increased clarity. Because when it comes to parents, it’s usually muddied with all the paradoxical feelings, in big waves, and sometimes emotions subconsciously hidden we didn’t even realize until pen meets paper.
Contact me for more info on my letter writing gathering. And let me know if you’ve ever written a letter to your parents. Did you give it to them or keep it? Maybe you burnt it, tore it up or hid it. Regardless, it’s a courageous thing to do and it can be a gift to yourself whether shared or not.
Take good care.
